Online dating meet in person
If my first meeting happens to be at night or a place I know don’t well, I tell a friend where I’m going and give her whatever information I have about the guy.I’ve never had a problem with someone not being who they said they were or being inappropriate (aside from one unsolicited nude selfie), but it’s best to be cautious.I like to pick up on the other person’s interests and let them know that I participate in activities they might also like.For example, if my prospect likes the same bands I do and one of them was recently in the area, I’ll ask if he went to the concert.Plus, it turns the conversation toward meeting in person and hanging out, as opposed to perpetuating ongoing emails.In my experience, emailing for about two weeks should be the limit unless you live far apart and it’s a production to arrange an in-person meeting.First dates are always exciting but it's important to keep your personal safety in mind.No harm can come from being over-cautious; you'll both laugh about it later.
If that goes well, offer to meet in person, and insist on a set time and place, not “sometime” they’ll let you know.
Then on that day I wouldn’t hear from them, even though I’d arranged my day to be available to meet up on short notice.
No long gardening sessions or I might be covered in dirt when they finally did call me.
I like to chat on the phone before meeting in person because it provides another way to see what the person is like.
Plus, if I feel awkward suggesting that we meet up, it’s easier to say “let’s talk on the phone.” If that goes well, at the end of the call I can ask if the guy would like to meet me.